Getting along with people is not for pussies. Difficult people are a pain in the ass AND can be an asset. Ethics, leadership and working with difficult people takes trust, truth, tact and timing, let alone showing up at the next meeting. How do I act instead of react? How do I deal with the different personalities of our community? This is a workshop about power exchange in working relationships in the BDSM community.
How you will benefit from this presentation:
I believe that our community in order to grow and effect changes needs to learn to work with one another in a way that is ethical and honest. Communication skills and skills in working with difficult people builds community rather than splinters it. We can all have differences of opinion, action and morality but we do not live in a vacuum and need to work with others recognizing the differences. The development of a healthy sense of humor is essential for any workshop on working with people!
Exclusive of abuse, we need to learn to call each other out in a way that is respectful and more important helpful. It is the art of truth tempered with timing, and tact. Holding people accountable for their actions is as important as recognizing our own bias and our own response to others. It is a discussion on changing our own behavior because we can’t change others. It is about acting instead of reacting to circumstances we can not change. I have no control over another top or his/her bottom, I do however, have total control of myself. It is all about power exchange in working relationships.
How this presentation will arouse you:
This made me smile. Talking about difficult people arouses so many emotions and reactions in attendees. This is a workshop about power exchange in our working relationships. I believe it will arouse them to look beyond their own issues to work in community with all kinds of people. Humans, by species, are social and we need to learn to work together even when we don’t like each other. I believe it will arouse people to go back with new skills to work in their community.
About the presenter:
Deborah is a published writer, retired social services administrator/college professor and courtesan. She holds graduate degrees in theology and social work. She sits on three boards: National Native American Aids Project, Women’s Theological Institute, and Bay Area Native American Two Spirits. She holds National Community Service Medal presented to her in 1998 for her work in building vibrant communities.